A life without conflict would be a life where there is little growth. A life without struggle would lead to a life of mediocrity. Life without challenges in our personal relationships would be a life without the development of the important aspects of love known as the fruit of the Spirit. These qualities of character are not developed in isolation. They are perfected in the rough and tumble of our ongoing struggles in human relationships. It is here that we grow in humility, forbearance, patience, wisdom, meekness, loyalty, self- control, forgiveness and the practice of preferring others.

"Is your life full of difficulties and temptations? Then be happy, for when the way is rough, your patience has a chance to grow. So let it grow, and don't try to squirm out of your problems. For when your patience is finally in full bloom, then you will be ready for anything, strong in character, full and complete." (James 1:2-4 TLB)

Every relational difficulty is an opportunity for growth. The important thing is that we do not prematurely opt out of a relationship or quickly write someone off, when there needs to be a greater development of love in us.

If we do not learn the life lessons of love in one relationship, you can guarantee that we will have to start over with the same lesson in the next.

To love someone does not mean that you need to agree with their every opinion. Love thrives when it rises above diversity. Love pulls the plug on gossip, divisiveness and dissension while upholding respect for the uniqueness of every individual.

Beware of the little foxes that spoil the vine and ruin the vineyard: the hurts that turn to grudges, resentment, bitterness and firmly fixed offenses (Song of Solomon 2:15). An offended brother or sister must take the action to unhook their offense through speaking the truth in love and offering forgiveness. No one else can do it for them. But we can each do something to push forward the resolution of conflicts that develop with people in our lives.

Make every effort to live in peace with all men. (Hebrews 2:14). Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:3).

Good relationships take work. Keep the communication channels open. Practice active listening, giving feedback to ensure that messages are being properly encoded and decoded. Take courage to express assertively your wishes and concerns. Do not sweep aside issues that are spoiling relationships. Practice expressing forgiveness. Build bridges of trust.

The purpose of the triune God is moving forward. He is eager to have His nature as a community of oneness manifested in our relationships.

Jesus prayed for this manifestation of His love in all our relationships. "That they may be one as we are one." (John 17:22). The Lord Jesus answers our prayers. Let us answer His, by dignifying every relationship with the expression of His love.